Certainty and Uncertainty
Consider alternatives and explore possibilities

We can lose sight of the fact that certainty is thought created and serves an intention or value. It can stop us being curious and seeking what is hidden from us.
The very nature of anything that appears uncertain suggests it is unpredictable and unreliable. It’s the inability to predict outcomes that generate fear, indecision, a lack of conviction and lacking in confidence.
“Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is an absurd one.” Voltaire
It’s a failure to accept the uncertainties of life that unsettle us and generates frustration. We find ourselves separated from the normal flow of life. The future we expected is now in question and there is then no clear indicator of the best way forward. What was once a reliable bridge into a predictable future becomes a precarious pathway of unreliable stepping stones.
For example, a journey to work seldom takes exactly the same time from one day to the next. You learn to allow more time or test different routes to cope with unexpected events. By considering alternatives you are showing flexibility and a desire to learn and adapt, not blame the world for your lack of understanding. Why hold on to a controlling ego when the situation is beyond your control? If you can accept the facts and change your thinking, new possibilities are likely to emerge. The diagram below explains the danger of trying to control uncertainty with a “quick fix” because this can lead to unintended consequences which keep repeating. A problem can persist unless it is reframed. This means seeing the problem in a different context or from a more positive point of view. A more sustainable solution can often be found
Making quick decisions in a complex situation can so easily produce unintended results because you did not see the interconnections. Each step depends on other steps and this can present new challenges. To a rational mind, when an existing pattern of expectations is not met it is unsettling and can cause anxiety, simply because the solution is not obvious. It’s tiring having to constantly reframe your assumptions by considering options until one makes sense to you. Embracing the uncertainty by wondering about and exploring possibilities can stop us from getting stuck in old habits and resentments. Just challenging old assumptions can create space for new insights to emerge and new actions to be tried.
“If we begin with certainties, we shall end in doubts. But if will we begin in doubts, we shall end in certainties.” – Francis Bacon
Exploring new territory
We can embrace uncertainty when we look beyond existing ways of thinking and being to explore new territory and find our way to new possibilities. By spending time reflecting on what is actually going on by using all our senses, it’s not the details that matter, but how we feel about the whole experience that dominates our thinking. We are trying to make sense of a situation as it’s happening and get a richer perspective.
The real voyage of discovery consists not in searching for new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” – Marcel Proust
The diagram below explores these ideas as a metaphor. As we deal with the discomfort imposed by constraints a wider range of possibilities emerges. Conversations can also lead us to new insights and realisations that lead us to new perspectives that were previously unknown to us,

Diagram based on the work of Arthur Battram from his book Navigating Complexity
The ideas that this image could generate in your mind will depend on your own context and experience. Trying to make sense of unfamiliar territory can often promote strong emotions because you can struggle to cross the “plain of constraints” in your thinking until you discover a “sea of possibilities” in the recesses of your mind. You may have faced difficult challenges before from which you gained new insights from the “mountains of perspective” drawn from your own experience. It’s your brain that produces the “conversations” from which “river of memes” flows to give you the inspiration to embrace uncertainty. It takes courage to be bold when feeling fearful or vulnerable.
It is possible to be both curious and scared of what might happen if you cannot predict or control the outcome. Consequently, you might prefer to ignore or avoid what you don’t know. For example, you want to have a conversation with your boss about a pay rise but (s)he is in a bad mood. If you fear failure you might avoid the encounter. Next time, when the boss is more amenable, you approach the office with confidence, yet inside you are shaking. You still decide to walk away because you are afraid your nervousness will make you look incompetent. It’s your fear of the unknown, not your boss that is holding you back.
When you can embrace uncertainty with confidence, whilst still feeling vulnerable, you are more likely to succeed in solving a problem. You may be worried that you won’t be respected if you show weakness or don’t give a good first impression. This fear of the unknown brings you face to face with your vulnerability, especially when outside your comfort zone.
Facing vulnerability
It is not uncommon to feel inadequate when facing unfamiliar situations and you feel your credibility is at stake. Admitting that you don’t have an answer can make you feel a loss of power and control in that situation. It can feel as if your very identity is threatened. But this response comes from a fixed mindset where you constantly feel the need to prove your capability to others.
“Vulnerability is that intensely painful feeling or experience of believing you are flawed and therefore unworthy of respect” – Brene Brown
Instead of seeing every encounter as a game of winners and losers, use intuitive questioning to find patterns of thinking that suggest a preferred action in that context. This can involve:
Remaining open to the unknown
Asking more questions than giving answers
Asking open-ended questions of which you don’t have answers
Being open to surprises and the power of synchronicity
Engaging in ongoing cycles of exploration to seek new learning
Turning judgment into curiosity to create new possibilities
Converting disagreement into a mutual exploration of common ground
Use defensiveness to engage in self-reflection





