Your Reality Creators
The best leaders possess fundamental qualities and skills
Languaging
How you make better assessments when agreeing on priorities, making promises and coordinating action
Emotioning
How you can create a more optimistic and productive mood state that can build rapport and influence.
Presencing
How you gain the clarity of mind to adopt a Way of Being to listen, show empathy and take action that has a positive impact.
Relating
How you present more of your authentic self to make deeper connections that extend to shared cares and concerns.
Explanation
The concept of a “Way of Being” is a metaphor for understanding the structure of our nervous system, which has four cognitive domains that give us a unique mind that shapes our consciousness, thoughts and mood states. Four domains combine to create our view of reality, one impacting the others subtly. See the diagrams below.
Our nervous system produces the processes that determine how we perform, observe, and interpret our experiences. These processes are referred to as languaging, emotioning, presencing and relating. This means it’s not about a balance between equals. We continuously adapt and adjust our Way of Being to fit our context and construct our reality.
For example, language can affect our mood state, and we observe its effect on our body posture, the quality of our relationships with other people and our view of the world. A bent posture affects our mood, reflected in our chosen words and our impact on others.
When languaging, the mind says, “My thoughts are . ..” “My perspective on this is. . .”
When emotioning, the mind says, “I am feeling comfortable/uneasy about.. . ”
When presencing, the mind says, “I am noticing tension in my body and its impact on relationships when. . . . .”
When relating, my mind says, “I am captivated as I connect with this person when. . . . .”